Sunday 28 February 2016

Planning An End Game


WINNING MOVES

I've worked really hard progressing personal development over the last year. The improvements have already brought gains and shown to be advantageous in many ways. I'm now equipped with some great tools to make a real difference in whatever I choose to do in the next stage of my life.

My learnings have also motivated others around me to take stock. I'm witnessing first hand how the teachings that I'm passing forward, are creating happiness and success. So now, these people are inspiring me to continue on this chosen path and help others to make improvements in their lives too. This in turn, will mean sticking to what I've been doing over the last year and being smart when it comes to making any future work/career moves. 

I already mentioned a bit about the benefits of portfolio working last year and why it's a good idea to keep a diverse set of skills that create wealth from different revenue streams. I've been doing a lot of handy man jobs over recent months, but I really need some good regular money coming in. The means for obtaining high income doesn't really exist in the handy-man world, which is a shame because there's real value in it. But, in order to bring in the higher revenue that I need which will also give me the freedom that's necessary for writing my book about my year of living mindfully, I'll have to make some counter moves to set up my winning end game.

So it's time to redouble my efforts and secure myself a semi-full time role in advertising once again. 

Sunday 21 February 2016

The Great Gym Swindle


GYM DREAMS & JUSTIFICATION

We've become so fixated on fitness these days and what constitutes our being healthy that our concept of what's 'really' good for us has arguably been lost.

We are told that certain foods are unhealthy, that we need 5 items of fruit & veg, to hydrate with 2-3 litres of water per day and ensure to have 20 minutes of vigorous exercise. This is just to mention a few of the health maxims professed by the health & Fitness industry. We're lured in by the pictures and slick videos of the retouched, super-trained athletes and models who invest a lot of time lifting weights and honing their already well defined physiques by following a strict diet. It's their profession, so they need to invest the time, stay disciplined and make the necessary sacrifices. This is not something the majority of us can maintain or even really need for general health.

If we look at our ancestors, and even just as far back as our grandparents era, we can see that the rules for what was good for us then, did not mention much of the information we hear today. Far from it in fact! Meat and veg on the plate was the standard message but it wasn't unusual to eat high levels of fatty or fried food. My grandparents sufficed on this kind of diet right up into their 90's. When times were hard, they ate what they could get hold of - restrictions on money and availability keeping everything within moderation. In the leanest of times, they sustained themselves on a very meagre diet. Hence eating only shredded wheat and nothing much else for the first year they were married. They never went to a gym to stay slim.

Venturing back as far as Victorian times and beyond, the poor working classes (the majority of the population in the UK), would have survived mostly on a diet of bread, supplemented with a very small bit of meat, cheese & dairy. Water was rarely safe to drink in the cities, so the poor drank alcoholic beverages like mead or boiled the water to kill the bacteria. Even children could consume as much as the equivalent of a 6 pack of Stella Artois per day if they worked in one of the many labour intensive work roles for 14+hours a day, as was the norm back then. Physical work was tough, but some of the people working manual jobs, like the bakers of that time, became so strong as a result that they could lift very heavy 280lb or 20 stone (120kg) bags of grain single-handed. These people were more than just getting by on their very limited diets and evidently there was no need for a gym for strength gains.


Realities & The Leisure Revolution
Prior to the industrial revolution, before division of labour and machines fulfilling much of the time-consuming, physical and laborious tasks, work responsibilities meant that leisure time was almost zero. People had to work hard all day long. It was tough. So again, going to the gym was off the cards for recreation.

Fast forward to the 21st century where we are very much more richer in terms of leisure time and expendable income too. It's the best time for living in history. We have time to enjoy life. This means we spend a lot of time on what we like doing. We have the options to eat and drink pretty much what we want. So this also means we tend to over indulge. Having a more sedentary job means we move around a lot less. Transportation is easier - we have lifts and escalators to ease us plus comfortable environments to work in. We've softened around the middle and become lazy when we should be pushing ourselves with more physical exertion. In the simplest terms, we are consuming more energy than we are using and this is creating a higher percentage of overweight and unhealthy people.

This is the modern age where the idea that we need to regularly use a gym has greatly progressed.

And the reasoning behind our gym obsession, reads something like this: Without regular exercise, we will become overweight, unhealthy and therefore live shorter lives. We will not fair as well in attracting a suitable mate against those who are physically superior and therefore unsuccessful in life.

This thinking potentially has some truth to it, but we have the power within us to do something about our predicament and it's not as complicated or difficult as one might think. It may not even involve spending money or time in a gym. We simply need to learn what potentially makes us fat, clearly define what exercise means and understand how to make the right decisions to benefit our overall health.

Health, Vanity, Function & Reward
Firstly, we need to ascertain what it is we're exercising for. ie. are we merely trying to stay physically active enough to keep the doctor at bay? Are we trying to look good in a bathing costume or are we in it for the endorphin rush? Because if we're not training for a sport or physical event - why are we in the gym when we can be somewhere else that's more fun instead?

Keeping in good shape can be easy. Food choices are an excellent way to keep a lithe figure. Quantity and quality are the key. We need to be aware of how much food and drink we consume. So a better control of the palette is one sure way to stay trim. But if we want to look really good on the beach, we have to keep the muscles from sagging too. That's where some time needs to be invested, but it still needn't be in the gym and can be relatively easy to achieve desired results without uncomfortable over-exertion either.

Gyms cost money and let's face it, they are pretty dull places to be in general. Ok, so let's say that your gym does a glow-tone fitness class accompanied with banging house tunes and flashing neon lights. If that rocks your world, then maybe the gym is worth it for you. But likely, a night out clubbing with your friends is a better place to listen to music and dancing is a great form of exercise too. I'm not saying you should give up the classes you enjoy - just suggesting that there's other ways to spend your money/leisure time and still fit in some exercise in to your busy daily life, without greatly impacting your time or bank balance.

We can get our healthy daily exercise quota in a number of ways and in many places other than a gym. Here's a few examples:

- The living room
- On the way to work
- Standing up on the bus
- In the park
- The bedroom
- In the garden
- Down the pub

Ok - so, maybe doing power squats in front of the TV is not appropriate, but there are plenty of workout videos out there for free on youtube, or you can devise your own exercise plan, stick on your own choice of music and get those 20 minutes of movement in the comfort of your own home. Peddling on an exercise bike for 5k in front of the telly is better than slouching on the couch - or you could perform 3 x 2 minute planks in the morning with your partner before breakfast. It's amazing how much this simple 6 minutes of exercise will transform your body if carried out every day.

Still don't have time? Even simply tightening, holding and relaxing muscles whilst standing on the tube, bus or waiting at a bus stop, will help keep everything firm. You can even tone up doing this while socialising in a bar. Taking a fast walk through a park, double stepping the up escalator and standing up while working - these will all burn calories, tone muscles, plus keep blood pressure and cholesterol levels in check.

Home Truths For Gyms
The fitness industry has become really big business but it's unsustainable the way it is now. This is because people are getting wise to the gym con and learning alternative techniques for how to look & feel good at the same time as saving money paying for unnecessary gym memberships. Apart from diet, which is already well known about, there's three other mostly overlooked factors which provide the most benefits when exercising.

- Posture
- Breath
- Rest


Many believe working out is meant to hurt. Hence, pushing themselves to the limit in order to feel the pain. No pain, no gain, right? Not quite....

If you too have followed this maxim, I understand how hard it will be to adjust your thinking and to move focus on to the three points mentioned above. This will be especially hard to adapt to when all that's really wanted is to 'break yourselves' into a sweat and get the endorphins flowing. This physical reaction to exercise is how we can easily justify 'rewarding' ourselves with something decadent after, but it might be a double edged sword because we may be overly spoiling ourselves with treats.

Working out can be fun. It's a good form of stress relief and that's why boxing for me is No. 1. Training can be intense, good for strength building, stamina enhancing and flexibility improvements. It's really easy to feel the benefits immediately after a workout too. But to do it well and without injury, just like any form of physical activity, we first need to master the techniques.

Incorrect posture leads to strains and in the longer term - injuries. Incorrect posture is something difficult to fix and takes a long time to correct once it's gone askew. If you have persistent injuries - chances are, they'll have originated from strains through having an imbalance in the body. 

I'd say we all need to take focus away from our strengths and give more time to correct and develop the weaker muscles for better keeping the body in balance. The sooner we realise and do this, the better the chances we have for repairing those minor niggles before they develop into major gripes and lead us into old age. 

Breathing and good posture go hand in hand. Performing correct, deep, steady breathing while doing everything from simply walking to work, picking up the kids, sitting properly in front of a computer monitor or squatting 100kg and focusing on core strength for making sure to lessen the impact on our ligaments and joints - these factors are key for staying in good shape.

It's long been established that the way to stay healthy, revolves around diet, breathing good air and getting quality rest. Flexibility, strengthening, cardio health and rewards can all come from daily living, easy to do body weight home exercises ie. planks, Qi Gong, Tai Chi, yoga, pilates and other leisure activities. So, the majority of us really don't need to put the extra stresses and strains on our bodies in the gyms unless it's for a a particular sport, event or for medical purposes requiring professional assistance/specialist equipment.

It just takes a bit of mindfulness to keep the body in balance. Good rest and quality sleep are the saviours of our youth and health. Getting that extra hour's sleep may be what our bodies need more of than that early morning spin class. If we can factor in a just a few daily minutes of 'relaxed focusing' a body-scan to allow time for listening/monitoring our body's needs, we can help keep them disease and pain free right up to until a ripe old age.  

Sunday 14 February 2016

A Need For Writing


DECISIONS ON DIRECTION

I'm still navigating through a crossroads in life. On the one side, I've embarked on my journey of self discovery. Although just a short way along, it's already opened up my mind to so many new things - ideas, ways of thinking and a positive mind-state for allowing further developments. On the other side, I'm still walking a life that I have previously led - one which fits in with a much practiced lifestyle. I'm unable to see what lies ahead on my potential new path, and because I already know the other path well, it's easier to turn back and stay on it.

The problem right now, is that I'm unemployed and slipping into debt. I need to bring in some money to cover the bills. The new path I'm on, doesn't yet provide the financial wealth to support me. The old life, which has been presented to me again, brings in good money. It's a tempting proposition. Two friends who I like and respect, are offering me an opportunity to come back into advertising. That means a 9-5 (and likely longer hours) and more security that the bills will be paid. Providing I stay disciplined as I have been, it could mean I'll be able to save money. Then I can venture off into the unknown once again.

Today I attended a mindfulness session. It confirmed what I already know and understand - that I need to stay mindful and also that I have come so far along this path already. I can make this work for me - but not just yet...I need some regular income and more time to piece together the elements for making a career out of the new path.

I miss my writing. The mornings used to be a more contemplative time. But now with the weekly blogs, I'm losing a continued stream of thought required to pull everything together. The daily paragraph diaries are a helpful tool, but I will look at writing a more substantial piece every week once my current legal responsibilities have been met.

Sunday 7 February 2016

February Time


SLOWING DOWN TIME

As much as I have tried to fit more hours into the day to do more with the time - the month of January (my new favourite month), has passed already.

This month used to feel so long and drawn out. I recall earlier years of cold weather, no money and longing for the days to get brighter. Essentially, wishing it would pass more quickly. Now it is the most productive and most looked forward to time of the year - even more so to me than the summer.

Relaxation & Reboot
Looking through the posts from this time last year, I can see an acknowledgement of my need to relax more. I tend to cram a lot into my days and previously thought that sitting around doing nothing constructive was a waste of precious time. Not any more. I plan my down-time in advance. Same goes for how I perceived doing anything that wasn't in some way educational, like reading fiction or watching Saturday evening television.

I now value the quiet time of solitude where I can escape with a good book and even appreciate the occasional bit of trash TV. I also make sure to include at least 5 minutes of quiet meditation every day to still the mind and a write daily diary paragraph to enforce, remember & remind me about what I've learned.

Rituals & Habits
Amazing how easy it was to ditch the drinking and partying this year. The morning ritual was started, adhered to and the promises we'd made to ourselves were kept, plus old habits were quashed and some new habits implemented in their place too. I tweaked the routine slightly to make it more interesting and honed the rest of the routine to make room for the new changes.

“Eat a live frog first thing in the morning and nothing worse will happen to you the rest of the day.” ― Mark Twain

Having a bit of discomfort in the morning (2 minute planks), even when not feeling 100%, means we have a stronger resolve. Daily yoga is another great way to get the blood flowing and the mind ready for the day and whatever it may bring. Even practising just 10 minutes of Qi Gong daily is bringing about significant lifestyle improvements.

Mindset
It's already become clear to me in January and confirmed with application throughout February, that controlling the mind is the key to happiness and success. We form our own realities. It's through our mind state and the decisions we take that define our reality. Our perception of reality is the only reality. We need to take a hold of it - because someone else will otherwise. We need to take stock of our situation and be grateful for each day and the blessings it affords us. For when we live right here in the moment, life will be far happier.

“Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one.” – Albert Einstein

Having the quality quiet time to regroup with the yoga and meditation will also help stop the negative voices from taking a hold. The very action of smiling is a simple way to bring about a happier mood and feel positive again. Consequently, giving out smiles more often, will bring reciprocal rewards. This is where cause and effect comes into play and the act of merely being nice to others is a positive start. Essentially, feeling happy and being more in-tune with the universe, will radiate out a sense of calm and a collective-ness that others will gravitate towards.

Helping those that need it through volunteering and selflessly taking on jobs for no obvious reward, will see the universe pay us back dividends further down the line. We all need to stand up for ourselves and what we believe in, but be careful not to allow these beliefs to drain energy or affect those about us either. 

I realised from February 2015 that my stubbornness/determination helped towards me getting results - but also held me in a potentially damaging mindset. Being angry is not helpful for anyone. It's the non-attachment method for living well that's required. Working with the power of Qi Gong, meditation and positive affirmations will help in these difficult situations and ultimately assist with playing the game of life much better.

The overriding message playing throughout February from 2015, seems to be telling me to pay closer attention to my feelings, emotions and mindset. I need to relax, take time out and have fun more in order to live a happier, healthy lifestyle - for better serving those around me and the greater good.